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try sulking and huffing and puffing so much that eventually she caves in and says "will you please pisss off and go skiing you are doing my head in!"
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I could do with a new iron though, should have thought of that
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Brilliant, quite briiliant.
However reading the OP, I suspect the concern should be more around "being let back in the house" rather than being allowed to leave.
My wife, for instance, changed the locks at home while I was in Les Arcs this year...
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Well, the person's real but it's just a made up name, see?
Well, the person's real but it's just a made up name, see?
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Strax, presumably keys were lost or something?
OT but it's up there with my parents moving house while me & my sister were at Uni.
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Anyway, snowHeads is much more fun if you do.
Anyway, snowHeads is much more fun if you do.
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This is the sort of thread that makes living in a van in a ski resort car park . . . so much more fun than being married
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Masque, depends if you need a lover, a drinking partner, a ski buddy or some saucepans (and an iron!) i suppose...
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I can't persuade my girlfriend to come skiing with me, although she's quite happy for me to go for a week. Her opninion is that it's "wasting" a week of holiday and a lot of money (let's face it, ski holidays aren't the cheapest) on a holiday she doesn't really like, and she would rather we went somewhere else for our shared holidays. Which seems fair enough, but that doesn't stop me craving the second week skiing
Although have been skiing in Scotland a few times at the weekend this year which scratches the itch a bit. Bonus of living within a reasonable day trip distance nowadays.
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Although Al doesnt like skiing, I'm not sure that I would even broach a second week away without the family. Wouldnt leave the family for a second week. This year had stick from the kids for going without them. Having gone last year they very much enjoyed it. Hopefully they will all get to go next year - I suspect if I have another trip I will need to settle for a long weekend
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snowHeads are a friendly bunch.
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Just get a new wife. Seems dreadfully simple. Short term pain, long term gain. You have to decide which is more important - marriage or skiing. Largely because you have all the persuasive skill of a double glazing salesman.
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Mistress Panda, Is this the Mistress Panda, I owe a portion of pudding to or the one that doesn't know about it
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You know it makes sense.
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A bit drastic (and expensive) but divorce has allowed me to have 9 weeks this year
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Claude B,
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Poster: A snowHead
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A bit drastic (and expensive)
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indeed - even the most fancy iron would be a lot cheaper! But it probably wouldn't give anyone 9 weeks.
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Obviously A snowHead isn't a real person
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You could always ask her nicely. How about the phrase, "Darling, how would you feel if I went skiing?" However, others on this forum may come up with alternative phrases you might use...
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Well, the person's real but it's just a made up name, see?
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Just get a new wife
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or borrow someone else's. Met a couple in the Hinterhag Alm two weeks ago who were desperate to avoid being pictured when everyone else was snapping away with their phones. He was 'on a work-related course' and she was having a 'girlie week away'
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quinton, the goggle tan would give it away.
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Anyway, snowHeads is much more fun if you do.
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The OP could just ask her if he can go twice next year. If she says that doesn't sound fair then I think the couple should agree that his wife can have a week away by herself doing something she likes as well whilst he keeps house. It doesn't sound a difficult concept to me
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Surely if the OP just explains to "the little lady" that he needs some air then she'll understand... Plus the new iron and job done
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The OP could just ask her if he can go twice next year. If she says that doesn't sound fair then I think the couple should agree that his wife can have a week away by herself doing something she likes as well whilst he keeps house. It doesn't sound a difficult concept to me |
It doesn't work, far too logical for the average wife.
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The OP could just ask her if he can go twice next year. If she says that doesn't sound fair then I think the couple should agree that his wife can have a week away by herself doing something she likes as well whilst he keeps house. It doesn't sound a difficult concept to me
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She gets just one week away when he goes skiing twice? Sounds a difficult concept to me.....
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snowHeads are a friendly bunch.
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Honestly, if my husband wanted two ski trips next season, I would have no issue with him going. Just as he has no problem with me going skiing while he's working, or going to visit my parents, and he's even suggested I take a trip to England without him if I feel I need to go. We both realise we do need to do things that make us happy at times, and if that means doing things separately then that's ok. Or maybe he just feels guilty about being away so much for work, and I feel he needs to have fun when he is home?
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For her recent Birthdays, I have already got her an iPod, iPhone and an iPad, I'm sure Kirsten will be delighted with her new iRon ........
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Buy her a horse. If she's into it even half as much as my OH she won't even notice if you go 6 or 8 times |
And for equality of costs you can go heliskiing. Result.
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You know it makes sense.
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pam w, well perhaps she encourages the first week away as a blessing in disguise . I think the same amount of cash ought to be blown on each person in any event.
Last edited by You know it makes sense. on Tue 25-03-14 13:05; edited 1 time in total
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We don't ask permission of each other, just tell the OH the plan
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If I wanted to do something which I knew was affordable from the budget then likewise, I would liaise with the OH about dates and other plans, but once the kids were independent I took off on several sailing trips (which didn't interest him) without "asking permission".
In families where leave time and budget are both very limited I can understand why there could be a clash of priorities, e.g. between a ski-fanatic and a lying-on-hot-beach fanatic. Then you need to find a compromise which everyone can enjoy, don't you? Fortunately my OH and I agreed that as we could only afford one expensive family holiday a year, it was definitely skiing. But when the kids were little and leave-time and budget quite tight, no way would I have thought it reasonable for either of us to expect a second "solo" week on the slopes. Local outings, mainly camping, etc or chartering a small and cheap boat were the standard fare in the summer.
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Obviously A snowHead isn't a real person
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holidayloverxx, Mr HL sounds cool.
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I think it is pretty straightforward. You have to consider resources (time and money) and each party's interests. Can you afford a second week? Would taking it mean that your options for other leave were so compromised that you couldn't do other things together? Would taking it mean you were so skint that other leisure opportunities were too compromised? If both can be reasonably managed and she still won't let you go then I think there is a real issue.
For years I have generally had at least two ski trips a year. Originally (before I met Mrs DJL) they were both with bunches of friends. Later, before we had kids, we did one together and I did one on my own. When the kids came along we did one family trip (often with grandparents) and I did a "lad's trip". Some years I had to compromise a bit. The year my daughter was born in February I only managed one trip, dropping Mrs DJL. son and daughter at the MILs in Holland, driving down to Chatel and meeting up with a few friends for the last 3 days of the season - 29 April to 1 May if memory serves.
I'm more passionate about skiing than Ms DJL. She recognises that and likes to see me doing what I enjoy. She's more passionate about buying art, clothes, nice restaurants and city visits. I recognise that and like to see here doing what she enjoys. We both like spending time together but neither of us think it odd when we spend time apart. Yesterday she had lunch at the opening day of Marcus Waring's new restaurant in London. I was at work and did a 600 calorie 5:2 day that cost me £1.05 for a bowl of soup in the staff restaurant and a few bits out of the fridge at home. No issue with it.
A former colleague's wife on hearing that I was going on a ski trip with "the boys" concluded we had an open marriage (like I couldn't find a way to get up to mischief any other way?) and that Mrs DJL should "Make sure you spend at least as much as he did on yourself". What sort of thinking is that?
Our finances work in a very simple fashion. Everything we earn goes into a bank account. Most weeks I draw a bit of cash out (£50-100 typically) the rest covers all the cost of running a house in the UK, the apartment in France (if it needs a bit spending on it) two kids away at uni, a bit of savings and anything Mrs DJL wants to do. At the end of the month there is generally not much left. Put more simply I draw c. £75 she spends the rest. Most of the income comes from my salary. Do I feel hard done by? No. There have been times in the past that the income position was different and I was the lower earner. Nothing was much different - I still got my £75.
Just because we do it this way doesn't mean everyone else should. My point is you have to work out an arrangement that works for both parties. If you can't there is something wrong that asking on an internet forum won't fix.
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My point is you have to work out an arrangement that works for both parties. If you can't there is something wrong that asking on an internet forum won't fix.
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+1
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Anyway, snowHeads is much more fun if you do.
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I am actually quite fascinated with the permission thing. How does one partner actually stop the other going? Freeze the bank account? Hide the car keys? I can't think of a way to stop my OH going if I minded and he really meant to go. It's not really grounds for divorce is it and that's way too drastic!. He earns more than I do so I don't feel able to restrict how he should spend the money...as long as the bills are paid.
And as long as I get that iron.....
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Asking to go on two holidays is too much information at once. You should get permission for the first one, and go on that one without mentioning the second. When you return bring her a nice present, something like a sowing set or a pair of Knitting needles and she'll be made up. Then while you're in her good books start to say things like how much you would love to go again etc, wheedle your way around to it.
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In families where leave time and budget are both very limited I can understand why there could be a clash of priorities, e.g. between a ski-fanatic and a lying-on-hot-beach fanatic. Then you need to find a compromise which everyone can enjoy, don't you? |
Yes, absolutely. We are fortunate that we don't have to find a compromise, although I do consider MrHL from time to time e.g. the EoSB is almost always his birthday week so I haven't always gone...not after the first one when I booked it before realising!
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holidayloverxx, Mr HL sounds cool. |
I think so
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holidayloverxx, How wonderful ..a birthday party with lots of :sH:friends!
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snowyowl, Yeah...but I go and he doesn't
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