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Obviously A snowHead isn't a real person
Obviously A snowHead isn't a real person
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A good start might be to stop callimg her 'the wife'. You'd be amazed at the transformational effect that a little respect can have on a relationship.
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Well, the person's real but it's just a made up name, see?
Well, the person's real but it's just a made up name, see?
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Bribe her with a new iron.
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Jonny Jones, Basil, 
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she thinks it’s a holiday
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poor little fluffy-headed thing....
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Anyway, snowHeads is much more fun if you do.
Anyway, snowHeads is much more fun if you do.
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Tell her you are going out to get a newspaper. 
My buddy didn't tell his wife we were going away for 2 weeks - It didn't work out too well for him when he returned + my name is mud as he blamed it on me.
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Jonny Jones, I have every repect for my wife she wouldn't like it if I refered to her as the other half
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my name is mud as he blamed it on me.
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some buddy, that.  Glen Charman, you mean she likes being called "the wife"?
You'll need to meet the argument head on, on her terms. What are her reasons for not wanting you to go skiing?
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Pay for her to go on an expensive holiday at the destination of her choice at the same time.
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that's just the sort of language which needs to be avoided in this sort of discussion - at least in those marriages where resources and decisions about priorities are shared.
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Why not take her with you, there's usually plenty of activities for non skiers. She might even get the bug. Failing that she could always get the supper on while you are enjoying the après 
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snowHeads are a friendly bunch.
snowHeads are a friendly bunch.
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Glen Charman, Do you actually know that she's not interested? Could she be persuaded to try..maybe with some friends? Nice resort with a spa and shops, tennis and a pool...late season for the sun. Or would she try some other snowsport? Then you could go together. Otherwise what would she like to do? Have you actually asked her? I'm sure there are things she would like to do that you wouldn't want to do - yoga retreat, cookery course, cruise...there are thousands of possibilities, including lying on beaches if that's what she likes. Could she take her Mum/sister/friend? If you have kids then I can perfectly well understand why she doesn't want to be left on her own with them..it's hard work..!
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And love to help out and answer questions and of course, read each other's snow reports.
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I don't know about how to persuade the wife to let you go skiing twice by yourself next season, but if anyone has any ideas on how to persuade my mum to let me go once by myself...........................
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One word.
Diamonds.
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You know it makes sense.
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Glen Charman, just talk to the bloody woman, idiot. You must have had to do this at least once or twice, what with sharing the same house and everything. 
And she is entirely correct - if you go skiing once or twice a year it isn't a calling or a way of life, it's a holiday and you are obsessed with it.
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Otherwise you'll just go on seeing the one name:
Otherwise you'll just go on seeing the one name:
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I agree with Snowyowl ! Get your wife to go to go too ! My ma in law had the nerve to suggest that it would be nice if my hubby went skiing with his brother and not me and I said that actually if there is any holidaying to the slopes going on, then of course I am going too.
I often take a day out from my cross country and go hiking or touring about and it is always fun.
I would be very unhappy with Musher if he went off to the snow without me. I would probably turn up there anyway if he tried it. Life is too short to stay at home and be rained on.
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Poster: A snowHead
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Why not take her with you
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the language in this thread is hilarious. "Take her with you". So much less paperwork than taking the dog.
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Obviously A snowHead isn't a real person
Obviously A snowHead isn't a real person
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'Pay for her to go
that's just the sort of language which needs to be avoided in this sort of discussion - at least in those marriages where resources and decisions about priorities are shared.' |
I'm actually feeling slightly offended by this. If my husband wants to spend money on what he wants to be able to spend money on why shouldn't money be spent on what I want to do as well? And despite me being the major breadwinner - it is our money and if he was going on a ski holiday we would both be paying for it, and if 'he' paid to me as I tongue in cheek indicated when I said 'pay for her to go' we would be both paying for it. If you are going to spend a fair bit of the family budget on your predilections then prid pro quo for the other partner.
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Well, the person's real but it's just a made up name, see?
Well, the person's real but it's just a made up name, see?
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That's why I suggested the iron.
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Anyway, snowHeads is much more fun if you do.
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That's why I suggested the iron.
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My husband had never seen a ski before he met me. We've been together 3.5yrs we've done a season, and 6 ski holidays.
I guess some of us just have the knack
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Both myself and SWMBKCU always go one week together but Kirsten doesn't mind me going the second week providing she can choose our late summer/autumn holiday 😃
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I guess it depends on a few factors, are you using up the annual holiday family budget, will there be funds for her to have a week away with the girls or somewhere nice for both of you later in the year. Personally for me the deal breaker is if you have kids. When our kids were younger I didn't like being at home alone minding the kids while hubby was away on holiday and tbh in those early days a second week away would not have been on the cards. No they are all older I wouldn't mind if he went away for a second week but once there would be a holiday together later in the year. Also is a second week away likely to be a once off which would help your cause or if you get a liking for it are you likely to want to go for a second week again next year.
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Only twice? You are not trying hard enough. Been/planning to be away 4 times this winter. The Mrs was only on one of those trips....
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Glen Charman, have you got kids that need looking after? Do you earn enough to pay for the ski trips yourself? If the answers are no and yes respectively then you have no problems, if you are asking your wife to look after your kids on her own for two weeks or pay for you to go skiing then tough, you don't deserve two ski trips 
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snowHeads are a friendly bunch.
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Have you tried the direct approach.
" I am skiing two weeks next year. I am so excited, You should try it"
but +1 to lynseyf
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And love to help out and answer questions and of course, read each other's snow reports.
And love to help out and answer questions and of course, read each other's snow reports.
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You know it makes sense.
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Just starting back myself after a long layoff and planning on taking better half and kids next year who at present do not ski.
She has suggested I just go on my own so not sure what the rest off you are doing wrong but maybe I should charge a fee as she is happy if I went more than once 
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Otherwise you'll just go on seeing the one name:
Otherwise you'll just go on seeing the one name:
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ALQ, And it was in the sale.
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Poster: A snowHead
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Just tell her. Give her a smack if she complains. I find that starting the conversation with HEY BITCH often works well.
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Obviously A snowHead isn't a real person
Obviously A snowHead isn't a real person
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Glen Charman, Simple, I just call it work
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Well, the person's real but it's just a made up name, see?
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PS How come you people married/got together with people who can't ski? When we got engaged and told our parents, the first thing my Dad asked mr snowy was "Do you ski?"! (he had been on school trip once, so yes...phew! Dad asked my sister's fiance the same Q and he said No. He had to learn PDQ.
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Anyway, snowHeads is much more fun if you do.
Anyway, snowHeads is much more fun if you do.
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pam w, it may seem hilarious but makes perfect sense to me. Why doesn't the OP pay for her instead of it coming out of her (or a joint) account. He is the one that loves skiing and she has no interest in it, so taking her might just work...
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It's give an take - my wife matches my "lads week" in Val D'Isere with a "girls week" week in the sun, simple - everyone's happy
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Why doesn't the OP pay for her instead of it coming out of her (or a joint) account.
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Well, if they have the sort of marriage where they have their own private money it might indeed be nice if he bought her a present. But she might just not have the slightest wish to go on the ski holiday with him, even if he is paying with his "own money". I would not want to go on a cruise, for example, even if somebody else was paying.
We didn't have "private" money. I was the main breadwinner but all resources, from any source, were joint so decisions about spending priorities were joint.
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Oral sex
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Buy her a horse. If she's into it even half as much as my OH she won't even notice if you go 6 or 8 times
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